We all have the potential to have a great life.

To have the potential to live the life of our dreams, to be happy, feel loved, be successful, fulfilled, healthy, and empowered.

Whilst empowerment can mean different things to different people, empowerment to me encapsulates that potential.

Over many years in the healing profession, I have learned a lot about empowering myself and helping others do the same for themselves. I’d like to share what empowerment means to me, and share some tips that might help you too.

Empowerment means to be true to you and living your life as you see fit.

It means knowing that you have that power to be, have, do and create – whatever it is you want to be, do, have.

An empowered you knows who you are. You own your true authentic power and know you have the ability to manifest that potential – in ALL areas of life. You address and balance all areas of your life – from the practical to the spiritual, and also including aspects of yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally.

When you feel empowered, you feel like you are shining from inside out. You have an energy and step, as if you are filled with a power that takes over you and propels you forward, easily flowing with life and all that you are creating.

You have an inner confidence, a quiet inner strength that feels unshakeable even in the midst of difficulties. It’s as if you are standing tall with your head up high saying to the world ‘this is me!’ and being proud of who you are and what you have to offer.

You radiate a sense of self-love, and helping others is a natural extension from that core or solid foundation of empowerment.

You know that what you do is an extension of ‘you’ and what you love – it is an out outpouring of all the things you love to do manifested in physical action that translates into a manifestation of what you have created. In this way, empowered you chooses ‘work’ that feels more like ‘play’ – or something that you enjoy, rather than something that is endured.

And as the empowered you, you feel good about your choices, make decisions that are aligned to your truth, that honor you and others – and make a contribution to all.

So, how do you get to be the empowered you? Here are some tips that might help:

1. Be the master of your life – not the victim. Perhaps the first and most important aspect is owning that you have a choice. That no matter what is your situation or circumstance, you always have a choice in how you decide to respond to it. That ‘decision’ in and of itself, is an empowering step to then take further steps to change it. When you know you can change your reaction to a situation, you create a thought of ‘what can I do about this situation?’ This question allows the answers to come to you, and then you can take action as necessary.

2. Let Go of the Past – holding onto the past is one of the greatest drains on your energy and is very disempowering. Ruminating over what someone said or didn’t do, or what you ‘should’ have done, gives you a feeling of powerlessness. And it not only ties up your thoughts to that situation but creates a leak of your energy as you are needing energy to keep the thoughts going! Resolve what you can, if you can – and then let go anything that is no longer appropriate. This will free up your energy and set you in the present moment time where you feel ‘free’ to create what you want in your life from this point forward.

3. Get Moving! – the flow of your energy is like a spiral that creates an upward momentum to help you evolve and move forward. EXERCISE is a fantastic way to get your energy flowing, and has a positive impact on how you feel about yourself. Whether it is a brisk walk in the park or a hike over the hills, 20 mins on the treadmill, or a yoga class, you need to keep your energy flowing. As well as the physical health & fitness benefits and the feel-good factor of exercise, as your energy flows through movement, it stops you becoming stagnant – which is a feeling of heaviness and depression that pulls you down and is very disempowering. So beat the ‘humdrum’ feeling and get out and move!

4. Know Thyself – is an old saying yet so true. To know your own mind, to know your belief systems and patterns; to know what are your strengths and your weaknesses, to know your emotional nature, and ultimately to know the true you. When you can identify more about ‘you’, you can work with those aspects that cause you to feel disempowered or go into negative thinking and debilitating patterns. Once you know your trouble or trigger spots that cause you to become off balance or that make you deflate yourself or cause you to go into lack of self belief or self confidence – then you can take steps to change them. There may be people who try (often unintentionally) to disempower you or throw you off centre – especially if you are living a great life!J– but if you are fully aware of the parts of yourself that can get sidetracked then if a situation like this happens, you can recognize what is happening, acknowledge what you need to within, but still carry on – the situation needn’t throw you off , so you can still feel empowered and good about yourself in the process.

5. Meditate or sit quietly – to connect to your inner power. For me, connecting to my spiritual aspect, higher self or source within, has enabled me to gain in confidence in myself and who I am. It has helped me to understand myself and my uniqueness – which is truly empowering. This Self Empowerment has led me to understand so much about myself and my life, including the painful and difficult parts, and see it all as a great ‘gift’ of learning – so I can come to understand more about ‘me’ on many levels. Creating reflection and self-time is crucial to feeling empowered. It also allows you to switch off and relax. There is a time for doing and a time for non-doing or ‘being’. Both are a necessary part of the whole.

6. Learn to say ‘no’ and create healthy boundaries – being a doormat is far from being empowered. Learning to say ‘no’ to people when you need to is a very healthy habit to introduce. As a mum, I understand how hard it can be when you have a million and one things to do and others may want so much from you. Saying ‘no’ when you know something is not right for you means listening to your inner self and knowing yourself fully.

7. Stretch yourself – take a risk – do something new. Affirm to yourself ‘I CAN do it!” Then congratulate yourself after you have done it.

8. Congratulate yourself – stop beating yourself up for things you feel you ‘should’ have done. Cultivate self-appreciation and learn to congratulate yourself for all your successes and achievements – no matter how small.

9. Listen to your intuition & have decision-making power of your own – your intuition is your greatest tool, for it is the means by which your inner core self can communicate through you. Your inner core self, your higher/true self, is that part of you that truly knows you and what is best for you. By attuning and listening to your intuition you learn to trust yourself and your decisions and choices. You learn to know that you can rely on yourself – that you DO have the answers – and as you learn to trust you, you build and strengthen the empowered you. Listen and act upon your higher self and intuitive nudges.

10. Follow your heart, dreams & visions – only you know what is best for you. Of course it is great to bounce things off and receive the input from friends or family or colleagues. But ultimately, only YOU know what is the best course of action for you – no one else. When you follow your dreams and what you know is right for you, you are allowing that deeper, empowered part of you to come forward and be expressed in the world. You allow your true purpose to come forward, and that is truly empowering. Spend time writing down your dreams and visions for yourself and look at them daily. Set your intentions for yourself and watch them unfold.

11. Positive self Image and the authentic you– when you allow yourself to get to know yourself you become the true and authentic ‘you’. The unique you, with all it’s flaws and imperfections. You accept all of you as you are, recognizing that you are meant to be just as you are. You create a feeling of self-acceptance and self- love, a positive self image, which is a foundation for being the empowered you.

12. Contribution and Adding Value to the lives of others– when you are feeling empowered you naturally want to extend out and share with others. You know that as you follow your heart, your own path and create our own life, you can be an example to help others do the same. And as you follow your heart, you are following your Love.

Empowerment with Love always considers the good of all.

I hope these tips may be of help to you. Remember an empowered you starts with the decision or choice – so decide to be the Empowered You today!

Michelle Harris
2014